• Miguel Angel Cano Santizo

Why do we stop questioning ourselves?

In our childhood, the curiosity to learn and discover is what drives us to constantly ask something we do not understand, but it is also the case that when we are children we want to understand everything. That combination, curiosity and questioning, happens to be the perfect formula for learning. However, once adults, somehow we believe we know the basics and essential when in fact if we kept the interest in understanding the behavior of others, we could surely learn from those around us in order to becoming a more tolerant and comprehensive human being. Thus, I do not get to understand yet why do we stop questioning ourselves?


Indonesian kid

While observing children, you realize they do not get anything for granted; they touch, play, ask...in short, they explore and find out. Such a behavior can only happen with the consciousness of knowing that you do not know, and it is right that personal humility which influences us to keep learning and self-developing. However, as we grow we need to assert our position and judgment in order to establish a solid and credible social image, not realizing that our determination is doing a disservice to our personal development.

When a misunderstanding or an awkward situation happens, an adult human being automatically tends to think that the other side is totally wrong and even it is often impossible to understand why that person has acted in that particular way, getting to judge and label his behavior. But what if we actually put ourselves in their shoes? What if we started to ask questions to ourselves with the goal of trying to get to understand the reasons that have pushed that person to behave that way?

Tibetan kid

Everyone is a different and unique world, with his peculiarities and circumstances which also are entirely perceived in a subjective way regarding the individual judgment of each person. Nonetheless, usually it is easier and faster to ignore these conditions, wasting like this not only an excellent opportunity to approach our fellows to resolve conflicts dialectically, but as well, a wonderful opportunity to learn about human behavior in the world surrounding us.

Every day we witness ways of living which a priori we do not understand; from ways to dress or talk to moods swings, without, from our point of view, any justified apparent reason. The real question is whether if we want to continue judging and labeling without further ado or we take the initiative and courage of stopping to think and reflect in the face of every uncomfortable situation.


Children keep learning constantly because they have not yet developed a pride that prevents them from contemplating the option of being wrong, but life is long and it offers countless opportunities to continue growing and learning just if with the simple move of keeping making questions to ourselves. Today the one that made me pause for while to think and reflect is why do we stop questioning ourselves?

Little girl from Gobi, Mongolia

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